Style Maven: Audrey Hepburn (Part 10 - On Humanity...)

As I said in my Editor’s Letter this month, if anyone wants to understand how to be truly happy in life, one should study the life and values of Ms. Audrey Hepburn—so I will make it easy for you to do so with my 10 part Style Maven series this month. In my fashion, after reading Melissa Hellstern’s book, 'How to be Lovely: The Audrey Hepburn Way of Life', one sees Audrey Hepburn as a prime example of how to overcome the self-defeating attitudes we have of ourselves, and rise to the occasion where ever you are needed. For me personally, considering Hepburn was an introverted soul, she reminds me that being an introvert, it is possible to step out of one’s comfort zone to achieve the success we desire. "We may be introverts, but that is not all that we are," I tell myself! I think she shows that there is strength in all of us (introverted or extroverted) to accomplish great successes and create a happy life, which is exactly why I preach of understanding what our unique strengths are so we can be as useful in this life as possible. She shows no matter how delicate, beautiful, or kind you are, we all have our tribulations in life, no matter how glorious we appear in the public eye. She reminds us that at the end of the day we all have to work for the satisfaction we want in life, and one cannot fret over what one cannot control. Life gets on when you do, so make it happen! I would only hope that the following posts help you to figure out how to emulate some of that effervescence Audrey possessed by adjusting how you see life through her eyes.

On Humanity: How to change the world...

Think Deeply “Somebody said to me the other day, ‘You know, it’s really senseless, what you’re doing. There’s always been suffering, there will always be suffering, and you’re just prolonging the suffering of these children [by rescuing them].’ My answer is, ‘Okay, then, let’s start with your grandchild. Don’t buy antibiotics if it gets pneumonia. Don’t take it to the hospital if it has an accident,’ It’s against life—against humanity—to think that way.”

Don’t Get Political “UNICEF’s mandate is to protect every child against famine, thirst, sickness, abuse, and death, but today we are dealing with a far more ominous threat—the dark side of humanity: the selfishness, avarice, aggression which have already polluted our skies, emptied our oceans, destroyed our forests and extinguished thousands of beautiful animals. Are our children next?”

Be Hands-On “I went with so many people telling me how harrowing and dreadful it would be to see the extent of the suffering, the death, and the despair. But I also witnessed how much is being done to help and how just a small amount of aid can assist in treating the sick, irrigating the land, and planting new crops. I came to realize that Ethiopia’s problems are not unsolvable if only the world would give a little more.”

Nothing Will Prepare You “I went through a war. Surely that made me a little more aware that some people might not know what it means to be hungry, deprivation and so forth. Never do I think of that when I see a child in Africa who is at death’s door.”

Inspire “Since the world had existed, there has been injustice. But it is one world, the more so as it becomes smaller, more accessible. There is just no question that there is a moral obligation that those who have should give to those who have nothing.”

Style Maven: Audrey Hepburn (Part 9 - On Fame...)

As I said in my Editor’s Letter this month, if anyone wants to understand how to be truly happy in life, one should study the life and values of Ms. Audrey Hepburn—so I will make it easy for you to do so with my 10 part Style Maven series this month. In my fashion, after reading Melissa Hellstern’s book, 'How to be Lovely: The Audrey Hepburn Way of Life', one sees Audrey Hepburn as a prime example of how to overcome the self-defeating attitudes we have of ourselves, and rise to the occasion where ever you are needed. For me personally, considering Hepburn was an introverted soul, she reminds me that being an introvert, it is possible to step out of one’s comfort zone to achieve the success we desire. "We may be introverts, but that is not all that we are," I tell myself! I think she shows that there is strength in all of us (introverted or extroverted) to accomplish great successes and create a happy life, which is exactly why I preach of understanding what our unique strengths are so we can be as useful in this life as possible. She shows no matter how delicate, beautiful, or kind you are, we all have our tribulations in life, no matter how glorious we appear in the public eye. She reminds us that at the end of the day we all have to work for the satisfaction we want in life, and one cannot fret over what one cannot control. Life gets on when you do, so make it happen! I would only hope that the following posts help you to figure out how to emulate some of that effervescence Audrey possessed by adjusting how you see life through her eyes.

On Fame: How to handle celebrity...

Never Be Too Sure “Truly, I've never been concerned with any public image. It would drive me around the bend if I worried about the pedestal others have put me on. And also I don’t believe it.”

When Necessary, Talk Back “How can people say Mel makes all my decisions, that he decides what I am going to play, and with whom, and where! It so infuriates me. I know how scrupulously correct he is, and how he loathes to give an opinion unless I ask for it.”

Have a Purpose “The world has always been cynical, and I think I’m a romantic at heart. I hope for better things, and I thank God the world is also full of people who want to be genuine and kind.”

Give Back “Whatever baggage you’re given—fame if you like—creates curiosity. People want to see you. I’m using my curiosity for the children.”

Style Maven: Audrey Hepburn (Part 8 - On Style...)

As I said in my Editor’s Letter this month, if anyone wants to understand how to be truly happy in life, one should study the life and values of Ms. Audrey Hepburn—so I will make it easy for you to do so with my 10 part Style Maven series this month. In my fashion, after reading Melissa Hellstern’s book, 'How to be Lovely: The Audrey Hepburn Way of Life', one sees Audrey Hepburn as a prime example of how to overcome the self-defeating attitudes we have of ourselves, and rise to the occasion where ever you are needed. For me personally, considering Hepburn was an introverted soul, she reminds me that being an introvert, it is possible to step out of one’s comfort zone to achieve the success we desire. "We may be introverts, but that is not all that we are," I tell myself! I think she shows that there is strength in all of us (introverted or extroverted) to accomplish great successes and create a happy life, which is exactly why I preach of understanding what our unique strengths are so we can be as useful in this life as possible. She shows no matter how delicate, beautiful, or kind you are, we all have our tribulations in life, no matter how glorious we appear in the public eye. She reminds us that at the end of the day we all have to work for the satisfaction we want in life, and one cannot fret over what one cannot control. Life gets on when you do, so make it happen! I would only hope that the following posts help you to figure out how to emulate some of that effervescence Audrey possessed by adjusting how you see life through her eyes.

On Style: How to be an icon...

Know Yourself “You have to look at yourself objectively. Analyze yourself like an instrument. You have to be absolutely frank with yourself. Face your handicaps, don’t try to hide them. Instead, develop something else.”

Less is More “Balenciaga once said the secret of elegance is elimination, I believe that. That’s why I love Hubert Givenchy…They’re clothes without ornament, with everything stripped away.”

Comfort Is Crucial “First of all, even if you had the money you wouldn't want to buy them. You spend now on one evening dress what it would have cost to buy full wardrobes for two years.”

Avoid Trends “I want to stay in fashion. But being young in spirit counts more toward looking young than dressing in a hippy style."

Style for Life “It’s the flowers you choose, the music you play, the smile you have waiting. I want it to be gay and cheerful, a haven in this troubled world.”

Style Maven: Audrey Hepburn (Part 7 - On Fullfillment...)

As I said in my Editor’s Letter this month, if anyone wants to understand how to be truly happy in life, one should study the life and values of Ms. Audrey Hepburn—so I will make it easy for you to do so with my 10 part Style Maven series this month. In my fashion, after reading Melissa Hellstern’s book, 'How to be Lovely: The Audrey Hepburn Way of Life', one sees Audrey Hepburn as a prime example of how to overcome the self-defeating attitudes we have of ourselves, and rise to the occasion where ever you are needed. For me personally, considering Hepburn was an introverted soul, she reminds me that being an introvert, it is possible to step out of one’s comfort zone to achieve the success we desire. "We may be introverts, but that is not all that we are," I tell myself! I think she shows that there is strength in all of us (introverted or extroverted) to accomplish great successes and create a happy life, which is exactly why I preach of understanding what our unique strengths are so we can be as useful in this life as possible. She shows no matter how delicate, beautiful, or kind you are, we all have our tribulations in life, no matter how glorious we appear in the public eye. She reminds us that at the end of the day we all have to work for the satisfaction we want in life, and one cannot fret over what one cannot control. Life gets on when you do, so make it happen! I would only hope that the following posts help you to figure out how to emulate some of that effervescence Audrey possessed by adjusting how you see life through her eyes.

On Fulfillment: How to make the most of it...

Distinguish Between Lonely and Alone “I’m an introvert…I love being by myself, love being outdoors, love taking a long walk with my dogs and looking at trees, flowers, the sky.”

Get a Therapist “There are people who blow their tops, and people who don’t. I am told it is bad to bottle it all up inside you, but then if you blow you have to go around apologizing…I suppose I should just let it out my ears.”

Practice Acceptance “The greatest victory in my life has been to be able to live with myself, to accept my shortcomings and those of others. I’m a long way from being the human being I’d like to be. But I've decided I’m not so bad after all.”

Find A Peaceful Place “[Switzerland] is the absolute opposite of the life I led working. I was to a great extent left in peace. The Swiss press doesn't care what you do.”

Live Simply “It’s going to sound like a thumping bore, but my idea of heaven is [having] Robert and my two sons at home—I hate separations—and the dogs, a good movie, a wonderful meal, and great television all coming together. I’m really blissful when that happens. [My goal] was not to have huge luxuries. As a child, I wanted a house with a garden, which I have today. That is what I dreamed of.”

Have Faith “I am no longer a Christian Scientist, but I believe in something—in the strength, maybe, of the human spirit.”

Be Needed “My mother always impressed upon us, you have to be useful, to be needed and to be able to give love. I think it’s even more important than receiving it.”

Style Maven: Audrey Hepburn (Part 6 - On Friendship...)

As I said in my Editor’s Letter this month, if anyone wants to understand how to be truly happy in life, one should study the life and values of Ms. Audrey Hepburn—so I will make it easy for you to do so with my 10 part Style Maven series this month. In my fashion, after reading Melissa Hellstern’s book, 'How to be Lovely: The Audrey Hepburn Way of Life', one sees Audrey Hepburn as a prime example of how to overcome the self-defeating attitudes we have of ourselves, and rise to the occasion where ever you are needed. For me personally, considering Hepburn was an introverted soul, she reminds me that being an introvert, it is possible to step out of one’s comfort zone to achieve the success we desire. "We may be introverts, but that is not all that we are," I tell myself! I think she shows that there is strength in all of us (introverted or extroverted) to accomplish great successes and create a happy life, which is exactly why I preach of understanding what our unique strengths are so we can be as useful in this life as possible. She shows no matter how delicate, beautiful, or kind you are, we all have our tribulations in life, no matter how glorious we appear in the public eye. She reminds us that at the end of the day we all have to work for the satisfaction we want in life, and one cannot fret over what one cannot control. Life gets on when you do, so make it happen! I would only hope that the following posts help you to figure out how to emulate some of that effervescence Audrey possessed by adjusting how you see life through her eyes.

On Friendship: How to build relationships for life...

Be Loyal “She embraced everyone as an acquaintance, but very few people were admitted to her inner circle. She had the ability to keep people at a distance without being in the least bit rough or unkind. Her magnetism was so extraordinary, though, that everyone wanted to be close to her."—Stanley Donen

Love Much “I think he loved me and I loved him. I think it’s rather different. I think it’s better than being in love.”—AH on William Wyler

Listen Well “Audrey really cared and really listened. Most people don’t. If you really listen, it’s because you really care. I don’t listen to half of what I hear—but Audrey did.”—Doris Brynner

Laugh Often “Most people think of Audrey Hepburn as regal. I like to think of her as spunky…She was a cutup, she was a clown. I think that would surprise people who didn’t know her. She could always make me laugh between scenes…she was a comic.”—Gregory Peck

Be Genuine “Audrey sensed very early in her life and career that self-worth based on fame or beauty is very short-lived, and so she remained forever herself—realistic, aware, and caring.”

Style Maven: Audrey Hepburn (Part 5 - On Family...)

As I said in my Editor’s Letter this month, if anyone wants to understand how to be truly happy in life, one should study the life and values of Ms. Audrey Hepburn—so I will make it easy for you to do so with my 10 part Style Maven series this month. In my fashion, after reading Melissa Hellstern’s book, 'How to be Lovely: The Audrey Hepburn Way of Life', one sees Audrey Hepburn as a prime example of how to overcome the self-defeating attitudes we have of ourselves, and rise to the occasion where ever you are needed. For me personally, considering Hepburn was an introverted soul, she reminds me that being an introvert, it is possible to step out of one’s comfort zone to achieve the success we desire. "We may be introverts, but that is not all that we are," I tell myself! I think she shows that there is strength in all of us (introverted or extroverted) to accomplish great successes and create a happy life, which is exactly why I preach of understanding what our unique strengths are so we can be as useful in this life as possible. She shows no matter how delicate, beautiful, or kind you are, we all have our tribulations in life, no matter how glorious we appear in the public eye. She reminds us that at the end of the day we all have to work for the satisfaction we want in life, and one cannot fret over what one cannot control. Life gets on when you do, so make it happen! I would only hope that the following posts help you to figure out how to emulate some of that effervescence Audrey possessed by adjusting how you see life through her eyes.

On Family: How to nurture those you love...

Love Your Mother Anyway “My mother was not an affectionate person. She was a fabulous mother, but she had a Victorian upbringing of great discipline, of great ethics. She was very strict, very demanding of her children. She had a lot of love within her, but she was not always able to show it.” 

Forgive Your Father “Having my father cut himself off from me when I was only six was desperately awful. If I could have just seen him regularly, I would have felt he loved me. But as it was, I always envied other people’s fathers, came home with tears, because they had a daddy.”

Believe in Miracles “Like all new mothers, I couldn't believe at first he was really for me, and I could really keep him. I’m still filled with wonder of being able to go out and come back—and find he’s still there.”

Be Present “The fact that I've made movies doesn't mean breakfast gets made or that my child does better in his homework. I still have to function as a woman in a household.” 

Teach Your Children Well “Never let yourself grow up believing that…anybody is any different from anybody else…we’re all the same.”

Style Maven: Audrey Hepburn (Part 4 - On Love...)

As I said in my Editor’s Letter this month, if anyone wants to understand how to be truly happy in life, one should study the life and values of Ms. Audrey Hepburn—so I will make it easy for you to do so with my 10 part Style Maven series this month. In my fashion, after reading Melissa Hellstern’s book, 'How to be Lovely: The Audrey Hepburn Way of Life', one sees Audrey Hepburn as a prime example of how to overcome the self-defeating attitudes we have of ourselves, and rise to the occasion where ever you are needed. For me personally, considering Hepburn was an introverted soul, she reminds me that being an introvert, it is possible to step out of one’s comfort zone to achieve the success we desire. "We may be introverts, but that is not all that we are," I tell myself! I think she shows that there is strength in all of us (introverted or extroverted) to accomplish great successes and create a happy life, which is exactly why I preach of understanding what our unique strengths are so we can be as useful in this life as possible. She shows no matter how delicate, beautiful, or kind you are, we all have our tribulations in life, no matter how glorious we appear in the public eye. She reminds us that at the end of the day we all have to work for the satisfaction we want in life, and one cannot fret over what one cannot control. Life gets on when you do, so make it happen! I would only hope that the following posts help you to figure out how to emulate some of that effervescence Audrey possessed by adjusting how you see life through her eyes.

On Love: How to get what you deserve...

Be Willing to Get Hurt “Sabrina was a dreamer who lived a fairy-tale, and she was a romantic, an incorrigible romantic, which I am. I could never be cynical. I wouldn't dare. I’d roll over and die before that.”

When Flirting Be Subtle “There’s never any need for any woman to ogle a man. Oogling only puts the men off. It scares them away. In fact, the faintest flutter of an eyelash should be enough.”

Mind the Male Ego “I thought a marriage between two good, loving people had to last until one of them died. I can’t tell you how disillusioned I was.”

Know When to Walk Away “Your heart just breaks, that’s all. But you can’t judge, or point fingers. You just have to be lucky enough to find someone who appreciates you.” 

Know What to Look For “The kind of man I’m attracted to can be tall or short, fair or dark, handsome or homely. Physical good looks don’t necessarily appeal to me just by themselves. If a man has that indefinable quality that I can only call ‘warmth’ or ‘charm,’ then I’ll feel at ease with him.”

Style Maven: Audrey Hepburn (Part 3 - On Health...)

As I said in my Editor’s Letter this month, if anyone wants to understand how to be truly happy in life, one should study the life and values of Ms. Audrey Hepburn—so I will make it easy for you to do so with my 10 part Style Maven series this month. In my fashion, after reading Melissa Hellstern’s book, 'How to be Lovely: The Audrey Hepburn Way of Life', one sees Audrey Hepburn as a prime example of how to overcome the self-defeating attitudes we have of ourselves, and rise to the occasion where ever you are needed. For me personally, considering Hepburn was an introverted soul, she reminds me that being an introvert, it is possible to step out of one’s comfort zone to achieve the success we desire. "We may be introverts, but that is not all that we are," I tell myself! I think she shows that there is strength in all of us (introverted or extroverted) to accomplish great successes and create a happy life, which is exactly why I preach of understanding what our unique strengths are so we can be as useful in this life as possible. She shows no matter how delicate, beautiful, or kind you are, we all have our tribulations in life, no matter how glorious we appear in the public eye. She reminds us that at the end of the day we all have to work for the satisfaction we want in life, and one cannot fret over what one cannot control. Life gets on when you do, so make it happen! I would only hope that the following posts help you to figure out how to emulate some of that effervescence Audrey possessed by adjusting how you see life through her eyes.

On Health: How to be beautiful...

Beware the City Life “In the city, one tries to live as though one were on a farm—that is, naturally: You try to exercise, but you can’t always; you eat the things that are good for you, but you also eat things that are not good for you.”

Relax “You have to be as relaxed as possible about food and fitness and the rest of it, or you will be a slave to your beauty habits…You may have great skin, but you’ll become a robot.”

Eat Well “When you have had the strength to survive starvation, you never again send back a steak simply because it’s under done.” 

Run With Dogs “I walk with my dogs which keeps me fit. I talk to my dogs, which keeps me sane. I can’t think of anything that makes one happier that to cuddle and play and start the day with a warm puppy.”

Grow Something “I’m grateful for everything that’s green. When I didn’t have a dime, I held to the dream of one day having my own orchard with fruit trees and a place to grow vegetables.”

Get Plenty of Vitamin C “We talked about food endlessly—what meal we would eat when the war was over. I think mine was chocolate cake.”

Be a Realist “As the year’s go on, you see changes in yourself, but you’ve got to face that—everyone goes through it…Either you have to face up to it and tell yourself you’re not going to be eighteen all your life, or be prepared for a terrible shock when you see the wrinkles and white hair.”

Style Maven: Audrey Hepburn (Part 2 - On Success...)

As I said in my Editor’s Letter this month, if anyone wants to understand how to be truly happy in life, one should study the life and values of Ms. Audrey Hepburn—so I will make it easy for you to do so with my 10 part Style Maven series this month. In my fashion, after reading Melissa Hellstern’s book, 'How to be Lovely: The Audrey Hepburn Way of Life', one sees Audrey Hepburn as a prime example of how to overcome the self-defeating attitudes we have of ourselves, and rise to the occasion where ever you are needed. For me personally, considering Hepburn was an introverted soul, she reminds me that being an introvert, it is possible to step out of one’s comfort zone to achieve the success we desire. "We may be introverts, but that is not all that we are," I tell myself! I think she shows that there is strength in all of us (introverted or extroverted) to accomplish great successes and create a happy life, which is exactly why I preach of understanding what our unique strengths are so we can be as useful in this life as possible. She shows no matter how delicate, beautiful, or kind you are, we all have our tribulations in life, no matter how glorious we appear in the public eye. She reminds us that at the end of the day we all have to work for the satisfaction we want in life, and one cannot fret over what one cannot control. Life gets on when you do, so make it happen! I would only hope that the following posts help you to figure out how to emulate some of that effervescence Audrey possessed by adjusting how you see life through her eyes.

On Success: How to make your mark...

Be a Good Student “The work ethic—don’t complain, don’t give in if you’re tired, don’t go out the night before you have to dance. Sonia taught me that if you really worked hard, you’d succeed, and that everything has to come from the inside.” – on her ballet teacher Sonia Gaskell

When Opportunity Knocks, Answer “This is how I got into movies: not because I thought it was so wonderful to be in one and, gosh, here’s my dream coming true, but because I need money to live. And so, when another opportunity was offered me, I took it. Gratefully.” 

Wing it if You Have To “All my life I've been in situations where I've had no technique, but if you feel enough, you can get away with murder.”

Work Hard “If you want to get psychological, you can say my definiteness stems from underlying feelings of insecurity and inferiority. I couldn't conquer these feelings by acting indecisive. I found the only way to get the better of them was by putting my foot down, by adopting a forceful and concentrated drive.”

Nerves are Normal “There is a Dutch saying, ‘Don’t fret; it will happen differently anyway.’ I believe that.”

Use Whatever Tools Necessary “What has always helped me a great deal, for instance, are the clothes, because as I didn't have this technique of being able to deal with a part in, you know, however way it was, it was often an enormous help to know that you looked the part. Then the rest wasn't so tough anymore.”

Be Prepared to Sacrifice “My greatest ambition is to have a career without becoming a career women."