I hope that as you have been reading my posts as of late in which you may have caught the certain links I have shared to a site that, in my fashion, gets down and dirty on how to be truly attractive: LoveToAttract.com. The founder of the blog, Nathan Joseph, provides great insights into love and relationships that may open one's eyes wider as to what we can do better in our relationships to connect with other people and come off as "attractive". As LoveToAttract.com breaks it down, what we find most attractive instinctually are the qualities in a person that would make them great parents and caregivers in a family. Based on evolution, good looks imply fertility, and even if we don't consciously think about fertility when we see someone good looking, our primal ergs for companionship are based off this fact, which is the attraction we feel when we meet certain people that appeal to us. Attraction is based off whether or not it looks as though you and that other person can live a long, healthy life together. We men have to prove that we can do this. Joseph breaks attraction down into two teachings: basic animal attraction, and emotional attraction. "The basic premise of these teachings is that love can be quantified and forced onto someone by changing your actions or social status - triggering the primitive attraction mechanism in the human brain which will make you successful with the people you want to attract... LoveToAttract.com's mission is to learn to how merge these two ideas together in order to master relationships and love." All organisms seek to be as attractive as they can be in regards to their specific species. The basis of attraction is to be able to find a mate to create more beautiful people! Depending on who you aspire to attract, your style should say, "Come hither, I am someone worthwhile!"
In my fashion, I advise men not to turn the other cheek to fashion out fear of a decrease in one's masculinity, because as Fashion Editor for AskMen.com, Sachin Bhola, wrote, "style is transformative and can be your stepping stone to a whole lot more." Everything we do in life is in an effort to become happy, and AskMen.com found in a study that, "We are happy when we have family, we are happy when we have friends and almost all the other things we think make us happy are actually just ways of getting more family and friends." Working to be as attractive as you can be is not so much a frivolous habit if you look at it as though it is necessary to staying on a positive course of life, and giving birth to the genius inside of you.
Remember impressing a women goes on even after you have bagged her, which is why it is important to stay abreast of trends to help you in your reinvention process, and more importantly to differentiate yourself from the other fish in the sea. In my fashion, the more intriguing you can make yourself, the more people will want to engage in getting to know your unique story. Women love originals, and if you take away a Bit-o-Inspiro from Coco Chanel, "To be irreplaceable, one must always be different." That's why we have fashion, so we can reinvent ourselves in a more unique version of ourselves so we stand out. Look at your style as more of a calling card, than actually getting someone's digits, for in my fashion, once your grab her interest and make her remember you the next time she sees you, you've won half the battle in the fight for attraction. Make her dream about you! And think about it, in this digital media, social networking age of ours, pictures and video are posted up of us all the time onto the internet for anyone in the world to view. Considering this fact, striving to look as "male-modelesque" as possible at all times won't hurt your view count, and likes. Plus with more people using social media as an acceptable dating tool, you would definitely want your style to attract the type of people you are looking for, am I correct? You want people to view your profile, (that's why you have one, right)! In essence, you are inviting others to make assumptions about you based on the way you appear, so wouldn't you want for everyone that sees you to be drawn into finding out more about you? Style is a form of visual storytelling, so find pieces that will tell a great story about yourself. My desire for my male counterparts is to get women to want to get to know your story, and keep reading it by being a part of it. Trigger attraction in a women without them even knowing!
The idea at the end of the day is to appear confident and original! It is the number one rule of attraction, style, fashion, and, in my fashion, life. Find the best way to showcase what in life makes you most confident, for confidence is what will turn a women on the most, and as I've said before, when you look good, you feel good! When a women sees that you feel good, she will feel good. In a relationship, men are the leader in this regard. Having a good sense of fashion is a way to show you have a good grasp of your sense of self, and that you are aspirational and passionate about life. It shows women how, in our own unique way, you are striving to become an even better version of yourselve everyday. In my fashion, that is the best way to attract women. Fashion is a great tool because it helps us all to flaunt our confidence in a way that is specific to who we are, and what we intend to do with our lives. Every man has a destiny. Fashion is a way to shows how confident you are in expressing your own version of what it means to be a man, and as the late Martin Luther King, Jr., said, "A man's sense of manhood comes from within." YOU determine how, "manly" you are, because there are many different perceptions of what it means to be a man. Universally, In my fashion, if you are taking care of your responsibilities to the people you care about, in this life, what's more manly than that?
Joseph's advice is good because it ranges from topics on all aspects of love and attraction including: flirting, flirting online, what turns women and men on, breaking up, and being single. Below are some of the articles from LoveToAttract.com that dissect what men and women find attractive in each other:
Thoughts for MEN
Thoughts for WOMEN